The ability to start a conversation with the right kind of ‘spark’ is crucial in online dating. You could have a perfect profile, but if your opening line falls flat, it’s all for naught. With years of experience in the online dating scene, I’ve found that certain strategies work exceptionally well. Here’s a breakdown of those strategies with some examples.
Compliments: Nothing makes a person feel more special than a sincere compliment. Here are some creative compliment openers:
- “Thank god we matched when we did. I’m just playing poker and all I needed was a queen.”
- “This is how I’d describe you in three emojis: 🥵🪩🍉.”
- “I’m gonna sue Spotify for not including you in the ‘Hottest Singles of the Week’ list.”
- “Yours is one of the most attractive dating profiles I’ve ever seen. Let’s get to know each other.”
- “You’re stunning. Are you free Friday?”
- “I am the kind of person who loves good food and good friends, but I am also looking for a partner in life. Could that be you?”
Jokes: Humor is a fantastic icebreaker. If you can make her laugh, you’re off to a great start.
- “How much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice!”
- “Tell me a joke, and if you get a good laugh, I will let you buy me dinner.”
- “Are you toilet paper? Because you look like everyone wants you.”
- “A lot of people tell me I look like Ryan Reynolds. Who is your celebrity look-alike?”
- “I am just looking for hot girls to take to dinner. Want to join me?”
Questions: Questions invite responses. Here are some examples of engaging questions:
- “Are you a meme? Because I’d like to show you to my friends and hope they like you as much as I do.”
- “Tell me something about yourself to impress me.”
- “I’m all about first impressions, so tell me something interesting about yourself.”
- “Hi there. Tell me the best thing and worst thing about yourself.”
- “So far I have a pretty low response rate. Care to break the pattern?”
Random Openers: Sometimes, the more random your message, the better. Here are some out-of-the-box openers:
- “Do you believe in love at first swipe?”
- “Is there a rainbow today? Because I think I’ve just found my pot of gold.”
- “Are you a magician? Because whenever I look at you, everyone else disappears.”
- “I’m not a photographer, but I can picture us together.”
Connect Over Shared Interests: Shared interests make for great conversation starters.
- “I like someone with a good sense of humor. The best way to my heart is through my funny bone. Can you make me laugh?”
- “I like to spend a lot of time outside walking on a long trail, and I’m looking for a companion, any interest?”
- “You look like someone who is up for a little bit of adventure. Care if I join?”
- “I’m looking for a free-spirited person who can keep up with my energy.”
- “What’s your favorite show on Netflix right now?”
Be Encouraging: Show your potential match that you’re genuinely interested in knowing her.
- “I am looking for a serious relationship and this is the only way I know how.”
- “At the end of the day, we are all just looking for someone to love. What do you look for in a partner?”
- “Life has a funny way of surprising us, and I think you may just be meant for me.”
- “You’re stunning. Are you free Friday?”
Spark Intrigue: Pique her curiosity.
- “Are you a meme? Because I’d like to show you to my friends and hope they like you as much as I do.”
- “Roast my Tinder profile. If you make me laugh I’ll buy you dinner.”
- “I love a fun game, so let’s play Truth or Dare.”
- “Tell me a joke, and if you get a good laugh, I will let you buy me dinner.”
- “How would your best friend describe you?”
Discuss Shared Values: Shared values can be an excellent foundation for a potential relationship.
- “The right way to my heart is a good dinner. What’s yours?”
- “Look at us in the right place at the right time. Could this be fate?”
- “Dating is a numbers game, but I’ve done the math and we are made for each other.”
- “Let’s jump on a plane and I promise we’ll be in love when the plane lands.”
- “What’s the most important thing I should know about you?”
Poems: Last but not least, a rhymed message can leave a lasting impression.
- “Roses are red, bananas are yellow, wanna go out with a nice little fellow?”
- “My head is spinning – My heart is racing – Should I tell you, do I say? – Whenever I see you, my thoughts begin to stray – You’re more to me than you know – I just hope that my love for you will show.”
- “You may fall from the sky – You may fall from a tree – But the best way to fall – Is in love with me.”
Remember, the goal is to stand out and be genuine. Tailor your approach based on her profile, and don’t be afraid to show your unique personality. Happy swiping!