Let me start by saying, congratulations! You’ve successfully navigated through the choppy waters of online dating, caught her interest, struck up a conversation and now you have her number (or contact in the messenger). But the question that follows is when do you call? When should you reach out and make that connection beyond the dating app? This is a tricky one and often stirs up a lot of debate.
There’s an old adage that suggests waiting three days before calling, but let’s be honest, in the fast-paced digital dating era, three days can feel like a lifetime. Moreover, that strategy is outdated and doesn’t necessarily apply to everyone. Therefore, I recommend waiting at least 24 hours before you call or message her. It’s a sweet spot between seeming too eager and losing her interest altogether.
Let’s say you got her contact on a Monday afternoon; my advice would be to reach out to her on Wednesday evening. This gives her time to anticipate your call or message and it also shows that you’ve been thinking about her but you’re not overly desperate.
When reaching out, make sure to remind her who you are and where you met. This isn’t as crucial if you’re transitioning from a dating app to a messaging app, but it can still be helpful. A simple, “Hey, it’s Eugene from Tinder, how has your day been?” should do the trick.
Follow up with a casual and open-ended question about her plans for the upcoming days. Here, my advice is to offer a couple of options rather than focusing on a specific day. Asking something along the lines of “Any plans for Friday or Saturday evening?” doubles your chances of finding a day that works for both of you. Alternatively, you could leave the choice to her by asking what day this week she would be free.
Now, if she doesn’t reply immediately, don’t flood her with messages. Give her 2-3 hours before texting her again. Remember, people can be busy, and not everyone has the ability to respond immediately. If there’s no response by the end of the day, give it another shot the next day but not at the same time. This shows her you’re flexible and respectful of her time.
In the event she still doesn’t respond, try calling her. But remember, if she doesn’t pick up or return your calls, it may be a sign to move on. It can be disappointing when things don’t pan out, but keep in mind, dating is a numbers game.
Ultimately, there’s no golden rule or one-size-fits-all strategy for this. The tips I’ve shared are based on my experience and the patterns I’ve noticed. However, the most important thing is to feel the situation and respond accordingly. Some girls might appreciate a quicker message, while others might prefer a bit more space. The key is to pay attention to the signals she’s giving you and adjust your approach as needed. Remember, dating is not just about finding a partner but also about understanding people and their preferences. So keep trying, keep learning, and you’ll find your perfect rhythm.