As a dating coach with 22 years of experience, I’ve learned that there are some general rules and etiquette that can make or break a first date. Here are some crucial do’s and don’ts to keep in mind when preparing for that all-important first encounter:
Do’s:
1. Smile and Make Eye Contact: Smiling can set a positive tone for the date, and eye contact can build a connection. They both send a clear message that you’re interested and paying attention.
2. Show Genuine Interest: Be curious about her. Ask her questions about her life, her interests, her dreams. The more you show interest in her, the more she will feel seen and appreciated.
3. Stay Present: Engage fully in the moment. Pay attention to what she’s saying, respond thoughtfully, and avoid distractions. Make her feel like she’s the center of your world for that date.
4. Keep the Conversation Light: Stick to light-hearted, positive topics. You’re there to have a good time, so avoid heavy topics that might bring down the mood.
5. Show Respect: Respect her space, her decisions, and her opinions. Even if you disagree with her, respect her right to have her own perspective.
6. Mind Your Manners: Basic manners go a long way in making a good impression. Simple things like saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’, holding the door open for her, and being polite to the restaurant staff can show her that you’re considerate and well-mannered.
7. Be Yourself: Authenticity is key. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Let her get to know the real you.
Don’ts:
1. Don’t Talk About Exes: The first date isn’t the time to delve into past relationships. You’re there to get to know each other, not to discuss past loves.
2. Don’t Judge Her: Everyone has a past, and it’s not your place to judge her for hers. Be open and accepting of her experiences and choices.
3. Don’t Make the Date About You: While you should share about yourself, don’t monopolize the conversation. Remember that it’s a date, not a monologue.
4. Don’t Be Overly Touchy: While gentle, respectful touching can be a good thing, remember to respect her personal space. Watch her body language and respect her boundaries.
5. Don’t Pressure Her: Don’t try to force a connection or pressure her into anything she’s not comfortable with. Let things progress naturally.
6. Don’t Forget to Follow Up: If you had a good time, let her know. A simple text saying you enjoyed the date can go a long way.
Remember, these are just general guidelines. Everyone is different, so what works for one date might not work for another. The key is to be attentive, respectful, and genuine, and you’re likely to leave a lasting impression. And, most importantly, remember to have fun! After all, that’s what dating is all about.